It is important to realise that our lives have not finished; they have only changed. The main road along which we have been travelling for many years has gone, but there are many side roads that we can take. In the early days after a heart attack, this side road that we find ourselves on takes on the appearance of a very narrow winding lane, along which we have to go very slowly. As time goes by, it gradually gets straighter and wider. We meet many different people and take part in other activities.

Forget the plans to climb Mount Everest, taking part in the London marathon, or trying for a gold medal in the next Olympics. These may prove to be a little too energetic!

The emphasis initially is on the patient, which is as it should be. The poor old carer does get some information but, still reeling from shock, they are unable to absorb very much. It is only after the patient is discharged from hospital that things begin to sink in and the worry of what to do for the best begins to take over. A heart attack has been likened to a major operation and time is obviously needed for a full recovery. There are no hard and fast rules that a carer can follow. We are all different in our needs and our capabilities