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Very often, a patient is reluctant to let the carer know when they are in pain or feeling ill, as they do not want to worry their partner. It can be far more worrying to look after a person who never makes a fuss, as one has to be more alert in watching for tell-tale signs of stress and discomfort.

It is a great help, and very important, if the patient confides in his partner when he has days of depression or not feeling well, then there is an understanding if they want to be left alone to rest or need to talk to someone. The carer is then aware of the situation and can act accordingly, or is prepared to seek medical advice as necessary.

Fortunately, these days, much more help is available in assisting the patient and carer to come to terms after a heart attack. Many cardiac support groups have been set up. It is a great help to join a community of fellow colleagues who share the same or similar problems. The feeling of being so alone to face such a traumatic situation was a dilemma in which I found myself. I had no one to give me any direction, information, what to do or expect or where to seek any after care that may be needed.